CyberBullying

Is it possible that adults can also face issues of cyber bullying?

Yes most definitely they… we do. Unfortunately it is very rife with the digital age.

Maybe it’s not the same as fighting on the playground, but exclusion, verbal abuse, even “death looks” amongst other abusive actions are real and can cause emotional and physical pain.

“Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology. Electronic technology includes devices and equipment such as cell phones, computers, and tablets as well as communication tools including social media sites, text messages, chat, and websites. Examples of cyberbullying include mean text messages or emails, rumors sent by email or posted on social networking sites, and embarrassing pictures, videos, websites, or fake profiles.” (www.stopbullying.gov)

Cyber bullying is any form of intimidation that begins online and in some cases carries on outside of the online world. I have experienced this. It’s embarrassing – but why should it be? Firstly, the feelings of complete despair are very real whether a child, teen or adult, but also because as an adult I know that the bully is forcing me to empower myself in some way, and the feeling of helplessness and fear is not ideal to carrying on with my purpose in life. It’s not easy. It is by far an ugly, debilitating feeling but I have to remember that hurt people, hurt people.

How did I deal with it? I educated myself. I found more than one organization that primarily support teens but will assist adults with processing their feelings.

Understand that if you’re a victim, it is not your fault. Understand that if you retaliate in any way it will become uglier so choose to ignore, and as a close friend said to me, “wrap yourself in cotton wool” meaning:

Do what makes you happy. Focus on your work, enjoy your hobbies.

Speak to people you trust.

I am still learning.

It’s easy to get caught up in the victim mentality especially if you feel excluded. Carry on. Get help. Get support.

Barry Lee Cummings and the team at Beat The Cyber Bully (www.beatthecyberbully.ae) make it their mission to assist people by a very useful online free ebook that provides practical tips on how to “Beat the CyberBully”. If the bully does not take heed and stop the activity, the victim can take it to the authorities who take this type of ‘crime’ very seriously.

What are the learning’s? It can pull the carpet from underneath you. It can shake your self-esteem. It can, however, also teach you to appreciate who you have to support you and what is important to you. It can force you into a new direction and find the confidence within. It can also teach you to educate others in positive ways.

It is normal to have healthy competition, but when it starts becoming scary for you in any way – get help!

Punishment for cyber bullying in the UAE

“When bullying crosses the line from aggravation to criminal harassment or threats, it becomes a crime. According to UAE’s Cybercrime Law No. 5 of 2012, issued by President, His Highness Shaikh Khalifa Bin Zayed Al Nahyan states that cybercriminals could face punishments up to a life sentence and/or a fine varying between Dh50,000 and Dh3 million depending the severity and seriousness of the cybercrime,” noted Ghareeb Saad, senior security researcher, Kaspersky Lab. (Khaleej Times, Jan 2017).

If you need any help, go to following sites:

Beat the Cyber Bully

UAE Police: 901 (non emergency)

Human Relations Institute and Clinic

You could send me an email and I am open to discussing further should you be faced with a similar situation.

All my support, Nazmira

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2 Comment

  1. Noha says: Reply

    Thanks for this article. It is informative and raw. Speaking of your own experience must have been difficult albeit beneficial. It helps to know that ‘we are not alone’.

    1. nazmira says: Reply

      Thank you so much for your support 🙂

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